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Therapy for Compulsive Sexual Behaviours, porn, sex & love addiction:
An Integrative Mind & Body Approach
If you are reading this, chances are you are carrying something heavy in private. You may be in a cycle of shame and self-loathing, trying everything to stop, yet feeling like your body and mind are working against you. You are not a lost cause—you are a human being in distress, and your body is holding onto that stress.
You may be feeling desperate, hopeless and exhausted. You have tried everything— going for walks, to the gym, maybe even yoga— but the anxiety, the sleepless nights, and the shame loop just keep pulling you back. It’s not because you lack willpower. It’s because the tension lives in your body, and talking or pushing yourself harder rarely reaches it.
My approach is different. With a solid background in clinical yoga therapy, and years supporting clients struggling with trauma, addiction, emotional overwhelm, and deeply-stuck patterns of behaviour, I don’t just focus on the behaviour; I also focus on the body that is driving it with evidence-based somatic therapy.
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Why Willpower Alone Isn't Enough
Compulsive sexual behaviour is often the mind’s attempt to soothe an overwhelmed nervous system. It offers quick relief—a hit of dopamine, a momentary escape from discomfort. But when shame takes over, your brain’s alarm system stays switched on, making it genuinely hard to think clearly or choose differently.
You cannot simply think your way out of a stress response held in the body. We have to learn to feel our way through it, gently and at your own pace.
How We'll Work Together
1. Getting to Know You: A Comprehensive Somatic & Behavioural Assessment
I use specialist assessments of your behaviour, patterns and triggers, alongside detailed assessment of your breathing, lifestyle, physical tension and nervous system. Somatic means "body". This helps us see the whole picture—not just what happens, but when, why, and how your body responds. From there, we build a therapeutic plan that fits into your life, and includes practical tools to start creating change, as well as proven relapse prevention strategies.
2. Sitting Together: The Power of Psychological Therapy
In our sessions, we sit together—whether in person or online—and create a safe, confidential space to talk about what you are experiencing. I draw a variety of therapeutic modalities, including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Motivational Interviewing (MI), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT), Psychodynamic and Existential Psychotherapy, and offer evidence-based psychological support from the start.
This means we explore the roots of your compulsive behaviours, the memories that may be driving them, and the emotions you have been carrying alone. By bringing these shadows into the light, together, we reduce their power over you. Psychological support helps you understand the why behind the behaviour, while somatic work helps your body release the how.
3. Finding Calm Through Your Breath
The breath is a true powerhouse. Yet, most of us have quietly lost touch with it. Through breathwork, we can learn to work alongside our breath, and calm the nervous system to feel grounded, present and capable of making the changes we are looking for. You will learn breathing techniques that work for you as an individual, after careful assessment.
The first time clients realise they can actually change how they feel by changing their breath is truly powerful. Even if it lasts only a few moments, it plants a quiet, powerful thought—“If I can shift my breath, maybe I’m not a lost cause after all.” That small spark of hope is often where real change begins.
4. Deep Rest with Yoga Nidra
If this is something you are curious about and would like to experience, Yoga Nidra can be one of the most nourishing tools. It is a guided practice of deep rest that feels almost like drifting between waking and sleeping, and is a practice I developed specifically for Addictions and Compulsive Behaviours.
Why does this matter? For many clients, sexual behaviour or porn use has become the main way to access feelings of reward and relief. Yoga Nidra gently invites the brain to experience that same sense of calm and reward in a safe, restorative way. It gives your senses a genuine rest, softens the brain’s alarm bells, and creates space to process difficult memories without being overwhelmed by them.
5. Learning to Sit with Discomfort
Emotional pain is often stored physically in the body as tightness, holding patterns, or chronic tension. To heal, we must access these areas safely.
In my practice, I use somatic therapy to help you release stored physical tension. This sometimes involves guiding you into supportive but challenging physical positions—positions that may feel difficult or uncomfortable at first. These aren’t exercises to “push through” pain, but carefully held stances that help you confront and process emotions that have been trapped in your tissues.
It can be challenging to stay in these positions while noticing the surge of anxiety, shame, or sadness that arises. But with my steady presence and guidance, you learn to breathe through the discomfort rather than fleeing from it. Over time, discomfort stops feeling like an emergency. This builds distress tolerance: the quiet confidence that you can handle a hard moment without needing to escape it.
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A Sex-Positive Path to Sobriety
My approach is rooted in sex-positive therapy. I help you distinguish between healthy, consensual sexual expression and compulsive behaviours that are driven by anxiety, trauma, or a need for escape.
Our aim is sobriety from the compulsive behaviour—not a life devoid of pleasure or intimacy, but a life where your sexual choices are made from a place of freedom, clarity, and consent, rather than compulsion and shame. We work towards a healthier, more balanced relationship with your body, your desires and relationships.